Just a reminder what “SPARK” is all about. Mondays are the start of a new week and why not start that week with a thought or message or reminder of the fact that Mondays set the tone for the week ahead – why not make it powerful. That was the idea that Annie McGuffy of McGuffy’s Reader had when she began the SPARK posts a few years ago – before her blog was hacked and she stopped posting. We hope she will be back soon – we miss her but in her honor many of us have been carrying the SPARKS torch on Mondays. Just something to make us stop and think – prepare us for facing a new day.
Having said that, I have to say that my SPARK for today is more personal this week. Yesterday we attended the Celebration of Life service for my husband’s twin brother who passed away this past March. Because of the times and the virus there was no formal funeral – no chance for family and friends to get together to support each other. Only now are some get-togethers being accomplished in some states, but with precautions taken. Yesterday, was the day. It’s been a rough ride since March. Twins truly do have a rather magical bond. That’s something I’d never seen before in my life. I have siblings but we’re not twins. My husband and his brother had the kind of relationship where they finished each other’s sentences. They had a lot in common but still had a lot of differences. It made for a wonderful relationship and I was happy to be around for 30+ years of that time. David’s brother was seriously ill for the last month or so and in an ICU with terminal lung cancer and we couldn’t visit – but with help from Hospice he came home near the end and we were able to be with him at the end. These intervening months have been so hard on my husband. But I wanted to find something – some quote or some THING that would come even somewhat close to the feeling – the bond – the closeness that they had always. I’ve told my husband even death doesn’t take that away but his heart is too hurt to feel that yet. I am sure in time he will feel it though – he’s trying.
This is the image that speaks to me………………
Yes this is a more personal SPARK than some I’ve done but I feel the heaviness in my own heart lifting…………the final goodbye has been said and while the little boat now has just one occupant I will be the wind beneath his sails to the best of my ability. Because that’s what we do when we love someone.